How to Praise Your Kids the Right Way Without Spoiling Them in the Process
BY: Sumitha Bhandarkar
Although this article is written for parents it can easily apply to teachers. The author focuses on her views on how to praise children without spoiling them, or turning them away from creativity. How can we praise our students in a way that gives them the most appropriate feedback?
“The key however, is to understand what kind of praise is appropriate in which situation.”
The author gives us an example of a ‘ budding artist’ who shows their work to their parents. The example is used to show, what the author labels as, inappropriate responses and why they are ineffective. The next step is, of course, to show some ‘better’ ways to respond, and why they are more effective. The ‘bad’ responses vary from ‘good job’ to vague and unclear praise, and the article does a great job of explaining why these may not be the most effective responses. The ‘better’ ways to praise are aimed at praising the progression of the child/student and allowing them to explain what they have created or discovered.
“How would you respond if the painting is detailed and indeed a beautiful piece of art? On the other hand, what if she is holding up a mess and you have no clue what it is supposed to be (with younger kids) or something that is so obviously out of proportion that it looks rather grotesque (in case of older kids)?”
Although, I hope, most teachers are already following some sort of ‘better’ praising system this is still a very good article. You should read the full article (and even clip it using Evernote) to make sure there aren’t any ideas you are missing out on.